My Neighbor Totoro

My Neighbor Totoro should come with the following warning: "This movie is fantastic.  Your child will love it. So will you.  You will spend approximately one million hours watching this movie.  ps. You will cry at the end every time."  

This movie is my favorite for little girls.  Although his movies are all rated G or PG, of the three Miyazaki movies I have seen, this one is the only one appropriate for little kids.  My daughter is almost 3 and she can't get enough of this film.  I even loved watching it up to the 40th viewing.

Many Americans are being exposed to the work of Japanese director Hayao Miyazaki through the release of his movies by Disney.  Princess Mononoke was successful in the west in the late 90s with those who like Japanese anime, but his collaboration with Disney is making many of his films easily accessible to families and everyday movie watchers.  Many of his movies can be found on Target shelves.  My Neighbor Totoro was came out in Japan in 1988.  It was dubbed into English and released by Disney in 2006.  Dakota Fanning and her younger sister do the voices of the sisters in the movie, Satsuki and Mei.

Plot Summary:  Two girls, ages 7 and 4, move to the post-war Japanese countryside with their father.  Their mother is recovering in the hospital from an unnamed illness.  While Satsuki (7) is at school, Mei (4) follows two little forest creatures into the forest and falls down a tree hole.  In this peaceful tree hollow she meets Totoro, a huge cat-like forest spirit.  Mei quickly befriends the spirit, who can only be seen by children, and only when it wants to be seen.  The movie chronicles the girls and their interactions with Totoro while they are waiting for their mother to get well.  The movie combines the reality of living in rural Japan (think cooking with firewood) with the surrealism present in many Miyazaki movies.  

Why this movie is great for girls: Miyazaki has a  talent for animating children.  He captures their mannerisms and quirks so well it is uncanny.  Girls will instantly identify with both Satsuki and Mei.  The two sisters have a wonderful relationship.  Satsuki is kind, helpful, and mature.  Mei is adventurous and brave. The forest spirits and the girls form a special bond.  Totoro is a huge forest spirit who roars with a force that could blow you away, but at the same time is gentle and easily amused.   


Children imitate the media they see in their own pretend play.  I love watching my daughter run down the hallway yelling, "I'm running really fast just like Satski!"   This movie also exposes kids to another culture; rural Japan.  It shows rice fields and chopsticks and washing clothes by stomping out dirt!  Abbey now has a pin stuck in Japan on our 'travel-wishes' world map.


My daughter and I both cry at the end of this movie.  Even when Mei is lost it is not especially tense.  I think it has to do with how happy the girls are when they find that their mom is not as sick as they thought.  The girls are so happy but you know that underneath their playfulness there is a void.  As a mom, I can't imagine not being with my daughter and vice versa.  Abbey had a hard time coming to grips with the mama not being at home.  When they are returning home from the hospital and the 'Totoro' song starts, it's just a tear jerker.  Plus, the first picture in the movie credits shows the mom coming home.  These girls deserve their mama (as do all little girls) and it's a tear-jerker to see their family complete. 


Possible Challenges: At the end of this movie you may want to have a discussion with your daughter about not running away from your house, even if one has a good reason.  Mei tries to take an ear of corn to her mother in the hospital, which is a good three hour walk away.  The only way Satsuki finds Mei is because the cat-bus (yes, that's right, a cat who is also a bus) knows where Mei is and takes Satsuki to her.  The only  scene that took me aback was when the family took a bath.  The father and girls are in one big tub, and the girls' dad is sitting comfortably with his legs splayed open, his fatherly parts hidden by Mei in the tub.  I chuck this strangeness up to cultural and historical differences, but it may bring out some questions in your child.  


Age recommendation: Any age!

WHIP IT

This movie stars Ellen Page (Juno) and is the directorial debut by Drew Barrymore, who also has a small part in the film.  This is the first movie I'm reviewing that is definitely only for older girls.

Plot synopsis: Bliss is a high school student stuck in a small Texas town outside of Austin.  She is kind of a misfit, but competes in beauty pageants to please her mother.  When she discovers roller derby she joins the team and discovers something that finally makes her happy.

Why this movie is great for girls:  This is a sport movie for athletes and non-athletes alike.  Bliss is already fine being "different" from her mother and younger sister, dressing how she wants even though she goes through the motions of the pageants.  After seeing the roller derby for the first time, she goes up to one of the girls after and says, "You guys are my new heroes."  The girl responds, "Why don't you put on a pair of skates and be your own hero."  Which is exactly what Bliss does!  This movie deals with family, friendship, and relationships.  Bliss does have a relationship with an indie-rocker throughout most of the film.  He breaks her heart and then tries to deny doing anything wrong.  Bliss looks at him so full of confidence and says "I don't want to be that girl," and walks away without a second thought.

Possible challenges: Not all PG-13 movies need to be for older girls (Whale Rider) but this one does!  There is drinking and a scene where Bliss and her boyfriend are swimming in a pool and proceed to take off their clothes.  Noting is shown besides kissing, but later in the movie Bliss tells her mother that she "gave him everything."  This is a movie that has a great message, but I would watch with your daughter so you can have a conversation about behaviors in the movie that are not appropriate to emulate.

Parental lessons: What makes us happy will not (probably not) be what makes our children happy.  When Bliss' dad stands up to her mom to let Bliss skate he says (of wasting money on an $800 custom made dress), "I'm ok losing the money, but I'm not ok missing the chance to see our child happy."

Age recommendation: at least 13

National Velvet

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Those of us with young children may have only vague notions of the importance of Elizabeth Taylor, Angela Lansbury, or Mickey Rooney in the 1940s.  I remember my mother watching Murder She Wrote and I knew Elizabeth Taylor was an older elegant lady who had married a lot of men.   Therefore, my first viewing of National Velvet was a revelation!  This was the movie that made Elizabeth Taylor a star while Angela Lansbury was a newcomer on the movie scene.  Seeing these old guards of Hollywood meant nothing to my two year old, who happily watched Velvet (Taylor) galloping down the road and never tires of the end race scene.  This movie is a perfect example of older movies that can be great for kids. 

Plot summary:  A young girl, Velvet, loves horses.  “What does it feel like to be in love with a horse?” asks Edwina, Velvet’s older sister (Lansbury).  “I lose my lunch.” Velvet falls in love with a neighbor’s gelding.  When she wins the horse that she calls Pie in a raffle, she decides to train him for the most prestigious horse race in England, the Grand National.  With the help of her friend Mi (Rooney) who is a former jockey, they map out the race and train Pie through sun wind and rain.  The climax of the film is the horse race.  The night before the race, when Velvet and Mi meet their hired jockey, Velvet realizes he does not believe in the Pie so she decides to ride.  National Velvet is set in the 1920s, and the notion of a girl riding in a horse race would be an anathema.   So, Mi cuts Velvet’s hair and she rides the Pie to victory in the race. 

Why this movie is great for girls:  It seems that some little girls are enamored with horses.  Velvet Brown certainly is, so is my daughter.  The horse on the cover was my prompt to try the film.  Although love of horses may be sufficient to enjoy this movie, it is certainly not necessary.  Velvet is excited and determined.  She enters Pie into the race because she believes in the horse (it comes across that she believes in herself, too).  The movie also depicts a loving and delightfully funny family.  Although there e some sibling tiffs, the girls are quite fond of each other as well as their freckled face little brother.

Velvet's mother may not be physically loving to her family, but she is a loving supportive role model.  Anne Revere (Mrs. Brown) won an Academy Award for Best Actress in a Supporting Role in 1944 for her role.  While many movies that focus on children have absent or subpar parenting, Velvet’s mother is the rock of the family.  While often silent, she dishes out wisdom at the most appropriate of times.  She was once a famous swimmer and fully supports Velvet's dream.  She realizes that Velvet may fail, but knows the importance of the following a dream.  "What's wrong with folly?" she asks Mi.  Interestingly for a 1940s film, Mrs. Brown talks frankly to Velvet about sexism in sports.  She says she was 20 when people said a woman couldn't swim the channel.  Mrs. Brown gives Velvet the hundred pounds she received for her historical swim so that Velvet can enter the Grand National.

Possible concerns:  When I first started watching this movie I didn't think it would make my list of positive movies for girls.  In an early family dinner scene, Mr. Brown tells his three daughters that they "have only their face for their fortunes."   Velvet (and therefore the movie) doesn't directly challenge the status quo of  girls participating in a national sporting event, but she certainly gets a lot of press when the world discovers she's a girl and people are very supportive and proud of her.

Parental lessons: It is more important to let our children risk failure than to do the work for them to ensure success. "What's wrong with folly?"

Age recommendation: 2 and up

Whale Rider

Talk about getting hit over the head with a Maori fighting stick.  The girl in this movie isn't just fighting against sexism on the school's football team, she is trying to overturn her entire society to show that she is the rightful leader of her people. This movie is great for girls who are a little older.  No matter how many of the movies on this blog you have your young daughter watch, at some point she will discover that there are still barriers for women in the world.  The protagonist in this film tackles the prejudice of her community (ie. her grandfather who is the current leader) head on and wins.  She has to make the ultimate sacrifice to do so, but she does what is necessary to regenerate her community.  This is one of my favorite movies, not just for girls, but for anyone. It is beautiful, heart wrenching, and uplifting all at once.

Plot synopsis: This is the story of a girl who is destined to be the leader of her tribe, yet her grandfather doesn't realize it because he expects his son (or grandson, or any male in the tribe) to be his successor. Paikea's grandfather starts to teach the young boys in the community to find one that can be his eventual replacement.  Paikea wants to take part, but is not allowed.  She studies her grandfather's teachings anyway.  Paikea and her grandfather have a loving relationship despite his blindness to her purpose.  It takes the most selfless act for him to finally realize the wisdom and power of his granddaughter.

Why this movie is great for girls: The movie follows Paikea as she struggles to define who she is, what her relationship is to her grandfather and to her community, and how to become what she is destined to be. This is a great movie about family and one of the most powerful examples of what I'm trying to find in media for girls. Paikea

Possible challenges: This is a complex story that develops slowly. Your daughter will need the patience to follow the story to its conclusion.  Also, the first scene is of a woman giving birth. It is rated PG 13, but for a silly reason. For about one second you can see a man holding a pipe. Kids won't notice it. The grandpa also uses the word "dick" when talking to the young boys of the tribe. The little boys laugh, and your kid might too!

Age recommendation: 8 and up.  This is a tricky one.  The movie is so powerful that I would hate to share it with a girl too late, but also, your daughter will need the maturity to appreciate it.  You will have to be the judge of when that magical time is.

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Below is a Whale Rider trailer.

Olivia

The Olivia book series, by Ian Falconer, is popular with young girls.  Six-year-old Olivia is a self-assured little girl (pig) who is imaginative and adventurous.  The books have been made into a TV series on Nick Jr.  Some shows are also available on DVD and iTunes.  Each episode has two mini shows each about 12 minutes.  It’s great for short viewing stints.  The best thing about Olivia is its promotion of imaginative play, friendship, and family.  Even better, there is no moralizing at the end of every episode.  No sappy music playing behind a touching parent-daughter teachable moment (think Full House).  Olivia is a positive role model just by being Olivia.   She loves camping, soccer, ballet, painting, animals, surfing, reading, etc.  Little girls will identify with Olivia’s endless imagination and creativity.   In one episode, Olivia makes a huge model of the solar system.  In another, her grandmother teaches her to surf. 

It’s the little things that make Olivia all-around great for girls; things you might not even notice.  Olivia is helping her mom stir up veggie loaf and says its her favorite food.  She and her friends are often showed drinking milk.  At the grocery store, Olivia and her family are always shown in the produce isle.  Olivia knows how to pick out a ripe watermelon.   Olivia doesn’t complain about taking a bath.  The only thing she might teach your daughter that you don’t like is how to bargain.  Olivia always bargains with her mom about how many books to read at night.  “Five”  “No, Olivia, three.” “How about four?”  “Ok, four.”  Abbey seemed to pick up on this right away!

My favorite Olivia moment will illustrate why this is a great show for young girls.  My favorite Olivia moment came in the episode 'Olivia Takes Ballet'.  She is tossing a football in her yard with her little “bother”, Ian, and her uncle.  He throws the ball to Ian and says "are you going to play football when you grow up?" and Ian says, "Yes!"  Then he throws the ball to Olivia (who is dressed in a red tutu for the ballet) and asks her the same question.  The situation is just ripe for a "girl-y" response about who plays football and what sports are acceptable for girls and what is acceptable for boys. Instead, Olivia says, "I think I'd rather be the coach, then I could tell the players what to do.  Or maybe I'll be an owner, then I could tell everyone what to do!"  Classic Olivia. 

Polly

Plot synopsis: This Disney musical originally aired on tv in 1989. It is an adaptation of the book Pollyanna. It stars Phylicia Rashad (Claire) and Keisha Knight Pulliam (Rudy) Huxtable from the Cosby Show. The movie chronicles Polly, an orphan sent to live with her aunt of the same name.

Why this movie is great for girls: Polly was one of my favorite movies growing up. Polly has a positive attitude and seems wise beyond her years. She influences everyone in the town. She helps the town overcome an old misunderstanding that separated white and black residents for years. Her positive worldview inspires the town and allows her aunt to realize what is truly important.

Possible Challenges: There are scenes that deal with religion and one of the songs takes place in a church. The movie deals with racism, but in a very indirect way. It may be a great opportunity to talk about the topic.

Other information: It may be difficult to get a copy. I have seen it in a Disney movie mail-order club, and on Amazon and Ebay for about $30. In my opinion it's worth the cost and I plan to buy a copy when my daughter is older.

Age recommendation: 3 and up

Links:
This clip occurs after Polly teaches her minister about her late father's philosophy on preaching. She convinces him to use "glad texts" despite the constant intervention of her aunt on sermon topics.



This is a clip of the song Sweet Little Angel Eyes

You can get a copy of the movie through the Disney Movie Club, but you'll have to buy additional films also.

Charlotte's Web

This was Abbey's first official movie. I needed something to keep her happy one day when she was sick. She loves farm animals so needless to say this was perfect.

Plot synopsis: On a small farm, a young girls saves a runty pig from being killed.  She adopts him and eventually he goes to live in her uncle's barn.  Wilbur (the pig) befriends the barn animals, and especially Charlotte, the barn's spider.  Charlotte also decides to save Wilbur and writes words in her web to ensure that Wilbur is seen as special.

Why this movie is great for girls: I especially like the first scene, where Fern stands up to her father when he wants to kill the pig. She says he's being "unfair and unjust". Fern does not give up on Wilbur, although she is obviously not alone in her goal to save him. She is an independent young girl. Also, Charlotte is a great role model. She dedicates herself to helping her friend.

This movie also helps kids see the value in each creature. Through the eyes of Wilbur we see that Charlotte is beautiful. The doctor that Fern's mother visits helps us to see the miracle of nature. He talks about the miracle of a spider web, even those that don't spell words!

Possible challenges:  1. Dealing with death. Charlotte dies at the end, and although it is bittersweet because some of her babies stay. Abbey is only two and she asks "where did Charlotte go, Mama?" 2. Eating animals.  A popular theme with farm animal movies is the animal's concern about being eaten. I have no qualms about eating animals, as with most people.  However, animal's in the films are portrayed as being aware of death and afraid of it.  3. Fern's mother is very concerned that her daughter is not acting "normal" and wants her to play with other children and wear dresses. This demonstrates that adults are anxious for children to fit into our idea and plans for them.

Parental Lessons:  We should be proud when our child acts upon their convictions, even if their values challenge our unstated assumptions. 

Age recommendation: 2 and up

Purpose of this blog

I am the mother of a 2 year old girl. I want the media she consumes to paint a positive image of females for her. I think it is important for her to see young girls with a strong sense of self-esteem working through the challenges of life.

When starting my personal search, the only lists I found were dominated by princesses or the Olsen twins. So, I am beginning the journey of finding positive media for my daughter. I am interested in movies that she can watch now and those that are appropriate for her when she is 10 into adulthood. I hope that this blog will be found by other mothers who share the same concerns and passion for media to have a positive role in the lives of our daughters.

I will include popular movies as well as more obscure or less well known media that I find positive for my daughter. You may not agree with my choices, or you may offer a choice that I disagree with. I do hope that this serves as a resource for other parents who share my interests and concerns about media consumption by our children.